This post was sparked by the bullshit I keep telling myself and a woman I met on the train yesterday, who kept complaining about how her life wasn’t going the way she wanted to for 2 effin hours straight! That conversation made me realize how I don’t want to end up.
“I’m not where I want to be because my circumstances don’t allow it. I’m not happy because x or y hasn’t been going my way. So many people are better than me at sports, have it easier than me at picking up girls, building muscle, losing weight, dealing with people, creating a business” – A Little Whiny Bitch (Me)
I’m done… really. I’ve had it.
I’ve had it with the bs I’m telling myself. Not tolerating this anymore. Two days in a row! Two whole days I’ve been bringing myself down because of these self-created “truths”. You want to know where this kind of behavior gets you?
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop expecting people to feel mercy or pity full for you. No-one owes you anything. And you want to know even more? No-one wants to connect with others who come from that frame of mind.
Stop saying your life would be great if this or that would be different. “If only my boss would be a little bit more considerate”, “If only I could make hundred dollars more this month”, “If only that girl would have sex with me” Then, and only then, would my life be perfect.
Just tell yourself to shut the fuck up and start taking action. This is the STFU and take action mentality necessary to overcome your daily complaints.
You want to know why? Because it’s ridiculous to try to control the things you have no control over.
I have bad genetics, making it me almost impossible to gain some decent muscle size in the gym. I’m constantly comparing myself to how relatively easy the guys around me have it. Whilst endo/meso-morphs (good genes) can look at food and gain size, I need to cram every little calorie in my mouth and actually force myself to eat before I’m able to add half a kq of weight on my frail frame. It’s frustrating to say the least. You know what that means?. I’ll just have to try harder. Harder than everyone else around me.
I got bad social skills caused by endless hours of video games and a lame gaming addiction. Now I go out and see people pulling girls like it’s nothing. I get frustrated over pictures on facebook and ask myself why I can’t be like them.
Sometimes (many times) my approaches get rejected and they don’t even pay attention to me. I see happy couples strolling about and by focusing on that I’m starting to belief I’m missing out on something. You know what it means if I want a girlfriend or more popularity? Interact More! Become the person everyone wants to be around.
I have a hard time at school because I have to deal with fools who (IMO) don’t even know their subject as much as I do. They keep telling the same useless, unpassionate, empty bs I’ve had to deal with for the last 5 years of my education. They have no idea on how to truly educate people and give constructive feedback.
Most of them aren’t even open to new suggestions and want to hold on to their old paradigms. You want to know what that means if you want to get that diploma? You shut up and do what you’re told. Fools are everywhere in your life and you need to learn to deal with them. Better now than never.
I get barely any visitors on my website and the things I write about for the last 5 months. I’m confused and doubt that it’s ever going to work out and if my effort really can make a difference. I’ve written over 60 posts the last couple of months and have barely increased my traffic.
I’ve put my time into improving my blogs with keyword research, optimization, different writing styles, pictures and so-forth and it’s barely paying off. I’ve struggled to move my website to a new domain and redirect my old traffic. I’m writing my own book about life and quitting vg and still ain’t seeing results. You know what that means? It means I Need to stfu and put in more time.
Now, I see you, sitting behind your computer screen all frustrated and confused asking yourself why you should be the one that needs to adjust himself to the world and not the other way around ? Because that’s the only thing you can actually control.; The thoughts you have and the actions you take.
It’s ridiculous of you to think that circumstances ever will go your way. But if you are committed and determined to reach a certain goal , the most important thing you can do is taking action.
You want to know the difference between a Owen Cook and Me? The difference between a Will Smith and Me , the difference between Bill Gates and me? They actually put in the work to get to where they want to be. So start taking action now!
You really need to be reminded of what you need to take away from this? Just shut up, work harder, eat better, sleep less, approach more, study more, write more content and generally just put your head down and do the work you’re supposed to do. If you’re not taking action on where you want to go in life don’t ever expect life is going to turn out the way you want it to.
“There are no magic pills, no illusive shortcuts “get x fast by minimal effort” only taking action and massive effort is the surefire way to get anywhere in life.”
Quit being a little complaining bitch about how life isn’t presented to you on a silver platter and that you don’t have your life the way you want. Start striving towards where you do want to go by taking action. Get out of bed early, work on the stuff that’s important and just stop complaining. Bringing yourself down gets you NOWHERE. Stop listening to the thoughts that get you nowhere, shut them out and act on what’s actually going to improve your life.
Complaining gets you nowhere, taking action gets you everywhere.
And maybe, just maybe… Some results might start to pay off in the end. If not, don’t feel sorry for yourself but change your approach. Try anything besides bringing yourself down.
Rant done. Exciting times ahead if you can cut out the